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Posted on 02/01/2008 by Take-it-2-the-EEOC-in-NYC
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White Racist Employers with hidden agendas as well as blacks who have given up their affinity to race because they now work in corporate HR and are making big $$$ try to use social issues to manipulate black employees who cry "discrimination." Because they all know all blacks behave like a bunch of crabs in a basket!

Let’s use this blog as an example ---Have you heard any of your black friends or co-workers say: “I don’t know Barack [Obama] from Jack. Bill [Clinton] is Black enough for me. I’m voting for Hillary [Clinton] because that’s like voting for Bill. That’s my girl! I don’t even want to hear what Barack has to say.” She said that she couldn’t stand when Blacks acted like they were your “brotha” or “sista,” when “I don’t know them.” Yet, she couldn’t identify a time when Sen. Obama behaved that way.

She then went into a workplace campaign about the joys of Hillary Clinton becoming President. Not a single issue was raised. The point was that “Bill is Black enough,” “blacker than Sen. Obama,” and “good enough for me.”

This worker was making the point that she didn’t know anything about Sen. Obama, so it was fascinating that she was choosing to go out of her way NOT TO HEAR HIM and that she was going out of her way trying to convince other workers to side with her choice of a White candidate.

This worker got me thinking about something many Blacks often talk about in private—how some of us love to be against other Black people, even when our only defense is “just because.”

Although Whites are often pointed out on this blog about workplace racism and discrimination, we have to deal with some harsh realities. One of those realities is that some Black people like to make life difficult for other Black people in the workplace. Some Black people use their own race-based stereotypes about Blacks to determine how they will judge and treat other Black workers.

Black people can make each other miserable at work by being the proverbial crabs in a barrel. I can’t believe some of things I’ve seen Black workers do to each other over the years. For instance, evidence of Blacks hating on each other and making each other miserable includes:

--Having a preference for reporting to a White manager because they can so-call “do more for you” and are “just better,” which results in some of us being resentful for being “stuck” with a Black manager;

--Engaging in a work slow-down, when given an assignment by a Black supervisor/manager;

--Intentionally holding on to an assignment in order to cause work delays for a Black supervisor/manager and out of a sense that you have to be “begged,” which makes you feel important;

--Intentionally turning in sloppy work to a Black supervisor/manager or coworker;

--Pretending not to know how to do something or how a process works, when asked about it by Black coworkers;

--Accusing Black coworkers of being “fake,” a “wanna-be,” etc. because they have been deemed not to be “ghetto” or “real” enough and making these statements to Black AND White coworkers;

--Knowingly spreading false gossip about Black coworkers to White coworkers or actually telling their personal business to White coworkers.

--Being complicit in targeting a Black coworker for mistreatment after they’ve complained of abuse;

--Accepting money and/or a promotion or some other reward for false testimony against a Black coworker;

--Lying to investigators about what happened to a Black coworker (e.g., saying you don’t know anything), not out of fear for your job, but because you don’t “owe them anything;”

--Intentionally making false statements about a Black coworker, who has complained of race-based discrimination, harassment or retaliation;

--Openly finding humor or getting pleasure out of a Black person being targeted by management; and

--Saying there is no racism in the workplace, just because a Black person has complained about it and not because it is true;

These are just examples. I’m sure some readers could greatly expand on this list.

The sad truth is many of us still have a plantation mentality. Instead of focusing on our condition, we focus on what’s petty and we may treat each other in an intentionally harmful manner. We set up false competitions with each other. We envy each other because of success or reward. We seek to bring someone down, who we think believes they are superior to us (e.g., they “talk White,” went to a “good school,” etc.). We find reasons or don’t need reasons to be uncooperative. We feel a loyalty to Whites because we’re grateful they “let us” have a job. We’ve seen friends and family treat each other this way and treat other Blacks this way. We simply may not know any better. There are all sorts of reasons for Blacks hating on each other and walking around with a “that N ain’t sh---!” attitude about another Black person.

We need to stop being so quick to tear each other down. We need some self-reflection…a moment to stop and ask why we engage in this behavior. We need to strive to change what is internally wrong with how we think about and treat other Black people. We need to treat each other with the same respect we demand from Whites in the workplace.

It’s fine not to deal with someone and develop a reasonable rationale for why you don’t care for them. But, with Blacks, from my experience, you have people sniping and carrying on with people they don’t know enough not to like.

“That b---- think she cute.”
“That motherf----a thinks he’s so smart.”
“He ain’t gonna tell me what to do.”
“She thinks she can boss me around.”
“She don’t mean sh--- to me.”

I’ve heard it all before and more than once. Just trying to be difficult and trying to find a way to cause some grief. Many of us don’t mind being crabs in the barrel.

Going back to politics, some people raise legitimate issues with Sen. Obama and some just seem to be repeating what they’re hearing White people say. They can’t go into any deep discussion about their criticisms, at least, not more than what they’ve heard. Of course, there are questions about the Senator. And, there should be.

But, I hear Sen. Obama being torn down by many Blacks on a regular basis. “He ain’t this.” And, “He ain’t that.” And, “He thinks he’s all this.” And, “He’s not saying he’s that.” And, “His mother is White.” And, “He’s not really Black.” It goes on and on.

Anyone who thinks Sen. Obama can count on Black people to vote for him solely based on race, doesn’t know enough Black people. I don’t care if all Black people had their concerns or fears resolved. They would STILL find a reason not to support this man because, just like in the workplace, there are Black people who are going to be difficult with Sen. Obama…just because. Some of us seem to be hard-wired that way!

When it comes to the workplace, we will never free ourselves from discrimination and other illegal behavior, when we choose to focus on needlessly destroying and being difficult with the Black people we work with. This reinforces our targeting by those in the workplace, who would choose to treat us in a disparate and unequal fashion.

We can’t fight the real battles that need our intention, if we simply desire to focus on petty squabbles of our own making. Let’s all look inside ourselves this year and identify how we may be contributing to any issues in the workplace and how we can make things better. And, let’s strive to stop being difficult with each other for reasons that are without merit!

Attributed by a friend in high places!










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post a commentPOST A COMMENTCorporate Ladder Rung: CEOSouthernProgrammer(02/01/2008)
Great post! I have actually seen a lot of what you describe.

Corporate Ladder Rung: Mailroomquality248(02/01/2008)
Your frustration is understood. Just be careful not to perpetuate stereotypes. I work with and know a lot of African-Americans who are wonderful, fair, and hard working.

Dumber than a Catbox full of sh*t(02/01/2008)
I have heard the quotes in your posted said millions of times. What is disturbing (because it is true), is where I have heard it and from whom...high school kids in school. I've heard the quotes from blacks about blacks and from blacks about whites. As a teacher, I have students every year that I just feel hate me because I am white.

I have a student now who has hated me since school began--and I just have a feeling it is because I am white. Recently though she really needed my help academically and from starting a fistfight in my class with another student. I really went out of my way in both cases to help the girl--why? Not because she was nice or great--because she is my student and she is young and foolish like all kids can be. Now I think she likes me. But I had to really put myself out there and help her to convince her that I was okay. And I really feel she hated me because I was white.


Wage Slave(02/02/2008)
I am curious as to what state you are in. I have worked in Pennsylavania and I have witnessed some of the bad behavior you wrote about. In our office management has picked 2 black women managers simply because they were willing to target and fire other blacks. Please note there are more competent blacks and whites for these positions. Most of the other blacks who actually do the work actually segregate themselves from the whites. Very few will associate with whites in a social setting. It's like high school if they are alone they will be friendly but if another black is around they won't say hello. I have learned not to say hello first. I asked a black coworker why this was and he said years ago blacks really had to watch their backs because management just didn't want any blacks in the office. I believe him because he is very objective and our upper level managers are idiots.

Corporate Ladder Rung: CIOHaveADamnNiceDay(02/04/2008)
You know, it's funny. My husband has related similar things to me (being a black man). He's been approached at the hair salon when other blacks see him with me, and the later corner him and ask, "What's it like being with a white person? What's she like?"
When he told me this, I practically bugged my eyes. I had no idea that there were black americans who had never been near enough to a white person to find out they're just like any other person. People are people.
He told me point-blank that there are people like that. It makes sense, though, since I've met plenty of white folks who've never associated with a black person. My own dad even had the naievete to exclaim that racism was dead!
My husband had to gently set him straight on the issue.


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