Posted on 07/13/2006 by Proud Mom
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I took a job with a major publishing company, thinking this would be the place that would give me a professional boost and a workplace that would take me into my retirement.
Ha! Fat chance.
It was a company where no one talked to you. And don't try to be friendly with anyone. They had told me they were a family friendly company but when I informed my boss my son's day care drop off time had changed to about 15 minutes later...and I would be about 15 minutes later getting in every morning....he said..."We knew you were a single mother when we hired you, but we thought we'd give you a chance."
POST A COMMENTthe cynic(07/14/2006)
As someone who's planning to start a family in the near future while working at a new job, this stuff is scary. I think if they say it to your face, you have a family status discrimination case on your hands and can sue (at least in NY and NJ, not sure where you are). But if they don't tell you....as I say, "at will" means "We can still fire you because you're pregnant/female/black/etc., we just can't tell you that to your face." Ugh.
Freedomringer(07/14/2006)
The right to work is another way corporate america discriminates legally. However, I can see the employers point of view. They pay you to do a job, if you can not execute your duties they should have the right to dismiss you. After all having a children is a choice that not everyone decides to make, so why should they pay for your choices. Motherhood is a fulltime job. I feel for single mothers, but it is not like they don't have the choice. I know there may be extenuating circumstances in some cases, like death and divorce. Why can't people be responsible for the choices they make? We live in a society that expects everyone to pay for personal choices. I choose not to have children, I like other peoples children just fine, from a distance. But I should not have to work harder or longer than a woman on the mommy track. She made a decision to have children.
PJ in Minnesota(07/14/2006)
Seems like there's some implied message here that as a single parent, you're a "lesser" choice. I had to laugh at the "take a chance on you" line, but of course only because it didn't happen to me. On to something better! A chance to WHAT, I'd have asked. Drop another baby right there?
avid reader(07/17/2006)
Wow, freedomringer, I respect your opinion but I totally disagree. I think parents SHOULD be considered for special exceptions. I am very single and don't intend to have children. I never minded when coworkers had to eave a meeting early to pick up a child or come in late. They are doing something that I consider admirable. Plus, there are times where I need to leave early or late as well and would want them to extend me the same courtesies. Maybe rethink things a little? We have to help each other out.
Meanlittleredhead(07/26/2006)
This is for Freedomringer.look I new half way through your comment about single moms and choice that you never had any children. Its ignorant people like yourself that keeps us tax payers paying for Tanf for your information that is the new welfare. I also suggest you become real educated in the single parent department and "choices" as you put it. Some of us single parets became single because we had the capability of falling inlove with someone and getting married. Sometimes children aren't always planned. But then you are probley pro-choice as well and that is fine. Then marriage doesn't work and that SHARED CHOICE/ RESPONSIBILTY is not there. When God speaks to you and GOd I hope so you will then truely know what to do when God puts you in charge of a true angel. THen again it is in my opinion that you are too shallow to experience such a thing in your life.
Freedomringer(07/27/2006)
Mean little redhead, I will not respond to your comment. I am educated and I do not feel it morally correct to pick on others who may not have had the same opportunities that I may have had. Best wishes!
Meanlittleredhead(07/28/2006)
This is in responce to this COMMENT: Freedomringer (07/27/2006) Mean little redhead, I will not respond to your comment. I am educated and I do not feel it morally correct to pick on others who may not have had the same opportunities that I may have had. Best wishes! 1ST, You just responded to the previous comment by posting this. 2nd, This is an open forum, that is what we are here for to give our OPINION ON ISSUES. If you notice in my first comment to you I use the word OPINION a lot! 3rd, By saying "educated" now what are you implying? I am educated myself with a B.A and an AA. Is this statement saying single moms are uneducated. I said for you to get educated on Tanf not get a degree. 4th, Some of us educated people are stuck in economically depressed towns where we have no choice but to work for an idiot. 5th, I will say this, IT IS IN MY OPINION, that your educated self brush back up on your reading comprehension, ask yourself if you can handle constructive critism, and then decide if you would like to continue being in a forum. I used to have the SAME ATTITUDE AS YOU concerning people with children until I had one of my own.
another mom (07/13/2006)
Hey good for you! That's terrible acting like they were "giving you a chance". I don't know if it's me or what but I keep hearing stories like this lately. Many of my women friends who are pregant or who have children are reporting similar stories. Are we going backwards???
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