Have worked for my employers for about a year and one half and have only received rave reviews and compliments regarding my work ethics and production. Actually, found out that I am/was the top producer within the entire company for the number of loans underwritten and most money earned for the company - wow!
For over a week I have felt as though something was not right because new branch manager and new operations manager (both men, of course) were ignoring me and the level of stress which I working under felt enormous (have not had any time off or a vacation.) Always felt that I was being driven to produce whether by means of honesty or dishonestly (as I came to discover.)
One week ago I was called to enter an office with 3 men who started off by saing, "this is not get rid of ----- day. And they proceeded to place a report in front of me with such egregious blasphemy against me that I literally broke down and began to sob. Such accusations as violent, abusive, obscene gestures, erratic behavior, etc. I asked why in the world would you want such a person on your staff and the op answered, "because you are the top producer and you make this company and lot of money." Wow! I asked why they didn't call the police and have me removed and they replied, "because you are a good person." Wow! This was the final written notice even though I have never received a first or second - wow! The op stated that I most likely would be demoted and my salary would be cut because after all, I was being paid too much - wow! My soul was absolutely bruised and I could hardly breathe. Again I asked them why are you not firing me and BM answered, "that would be too easy." Wow! I asked how would this make you feel and the BM answered, "I've had my happy pill for today, so I'm okay." What? I expressed that I was not/could not go back to work and they aaid, "of course, we understand and you may go home and if you feel you cannot work tomorrower, that's okay too." Well, needless to say, I fell completely apart, saw a psychologist, medical doctor and have not been able to sleep, eat or think logically for any length of time. I've heeded the advice of friends (who by the way think these men are not men at all but rather little boy cowards) and I've called in each and every day (throwing up first of course) and I've faxed copy of doctor's report to HR (who by the way as I understand it, is dating the operations manager.) Wow!
I feel so native and gullible and any anger has been turned on myself. I've been working for too many years to just sit back and let this happen. I have two sons and if they ever treated a woman as I have been treated, I would kick them so far east, that the sun probably would never rise again.
Any suggesitons?
POST A COMMENTavid reader(09/09/2006)
Oh. My. God. I can't believe they did this. Talk about bullying, intimidation and manipulation! This might come out of left field, but I recently went to a Dave Chappelle show and he was talking about being bullied and manipulated by the people who produced his TV show. He used an example to illustrate his point and told a story about a term called "mileage on a hoe" (stay with me here...). Mileage on a hoe basically means that a top producing "hoe" can only go so long, in other words, like a car she only has so many miles. So what a pimp has to do, when her mileage is getting up there and she realizes her value (or is just plain getting fed up) is to pull some tricky stuff. He either has to beat her down, degrade her more or manipulate her in some way so that she feels obligated to stay and keep producing. She gets indebted to him or feels worthless elsewhere or thinks of herself as trapped. This is exactly what the pimp wants. OK are you still with me? SO, this totally applies here to your situation. They realize you're a top performer and bring in the big bucks for their company. So what do they have to do in order for you to not leave and keep producing? Easy. They have to break you down and keep you under their thumb and make you believe that you are no good anywhere else. Do not be thier hoe. I hope this analogy makes sense and can help give you strength. I hope it was not too offensive for you as I really think there's a lot to this theory.
Dharmadee(09/09/2006)
This is absolutely slimy and nasty of this bunch of users. I sense that you are a person with a strong work ethic, and are doing your best, and it seems to me that the Dave Chappelle analogy is right. I know you are a working mom, and need a job, but do not let these clowns destroy your self esteem. If necessary, get medical leave, based on stress, but whatever you do, start looking for another job.
blola(09/09/2006)
Thank you loads. No hoe here! But, how do you let the b------s know that they are b------s?
RTO(09/09/2006)
Do you still have a copy of the report with the accusations, along with proof you are the #1 producer? I'd give it to my lawyer and let him iron it out.........what a bunch of intimidating a##holes. Life is too short to put up with bullsh!t. I've come to realize that myself over the last 6 months (LOL)
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