Here is the scenario: You are a male (age 30, married), and you have to travel for work with a female co-worker (age 26, single). You have to drive in the same car for 4 hours to get to the work destination. You stay in the same hotel, but obviously not the same room. Anyway here are my questions: a)Is it inappropriate for this girl to be in your room - regardless if it is 8am or 8pm. She should wait in the lobby, right? b)It is fine to drink a beer with dinner, but is it inappropriate to drink together other than that?
Thanks All, your opinion will be valued! (oh, and an explanation supporting your thoughts would be great!)
POST A COMMENTcorporateSlave(03/02/2006)
Hmmm, given the handle you chose, I am guessing you are the wife of this 30-year-old man. (Which is fair) I agree with "just me", neither situation is appropriate. The young lady should never have reason to be in his room. Drinking with her (other than 1 glass of something at dinner) is just plain flirting with a situation where judgement is impaired, you're out of town, you're a male and a female of an age, and you have hotel rooms. Even to the most upright citizens, that is temptation. Best to avoid the situation altogether, go there for business and business only. Have dinner, say goodnight and go back up to your hotel room to watch TV or call your wife!
Spencer(03/02/2006)
Dude, if only I had that situation! I'd be so happy I was even IN the situation that I'd probably act like a little boy who just got handed his first dreamsicle. I'd DROP it in the dirt!!!! ROTFLMAO ++ BTW thanks for the inappropriate dream sequence I just had. It was a nice distraction in my boring workday!++
san_diego_summers(03/02/2006)
ok, 28 year old chic chiming in. When I was 25, I was been in a similiar situation. I didn't like the guy or anything like that, but I stopped by his room to walk down to the conference with him and he wasn't ready yet so I waited in his room and watched TV. His wife called but he didn't tell her I was in the room but kept glancing at me all guiltily the whole time he was talking to her. After that I felt like I was doing something wrong eventhough it hadn't even occured to me before. This guy was 29 and we got a long really well at the office. For the record, I drank with him on the trip but it was always with our sales managers. Anyway, looking back, I could see how naive I was about the whole thing so I have to say I wouldn't ever stop by anybody's room again (unless maybe I was hoping something else would happen).
twizzler(03/02/2006)
I'm currently on a business trip with my manager (we are both men) and I am not even comfortable hanging out in his room even to just wait for a few minutes. I find it quite weird. In fact, I try to avoid social outings with work folks on most occassions. I like to keep my work life and personal activities as distant as possible.
tiredofbeingyourmomma(03/02/2006)
You are correct that being in his room isn't appropriate unless he is having a medical emergency and she is dialing 911. As for drinking together: poor form, looks tacky and is begging for trouble. It's nice to have good friends, but personal boundaries need to be established firmly in a loaded situation like the one you descibe.
GreenOlive(03/02/2006)
I'd never visit a male co-workers hotel room. That is asking for trouble on my behalf and his...even if we both had good intentions, it still possibly inviting a bad situation. Besides, who wants to see someone elses stinky sheets and smell their room - you know how hotel rooms are!
SouthernProgrammer(03/02/2006)
I don't think it's appropriate. Even if everything starts out innocent you have oppurtunity. At the very least it LOOKS inappropriate, what if someone saw them walking out the room together?
friday hotness(03/02/2006)
Been there. Done that. Regretted it when the whole office began to "talk". Where there's smoke there's fire, no?
cnubelevit(03/02/2006)
Ponder this...how much do you respect and love your wife and how would you feel if the situation were reversed?
just me (03/02/2006)
Yes, I think it is inappropriate for her to ever be in your room for the simple reason of why would she ever need to be in your room? There's no reason for her to be. You can have a beer with dinner or a glass of wine, but after than no drinks together. If it was in a group of people, that's different, but not alone together because when a man and woman drink alone together it is like a date.
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