By Susan
I would like to tell anyone who is dealing with an abusive boss to get out now- don't sit there and take it because it will only get worse. Yes, I know that people have families to support... But if you try to resolve it the best way you can and it doesn't get better- Get out!
I worked for a very creative, talented person on and off for about a year and a half. Everything was great at first. I thought I meant a friend for life and they cared about me. Eventually, I saw that "X" had a temper and got very abusive. I was cussed at, told to shut the f up, was belittled in front of other people- including clients, was accused of stealing from her, was given the silent treatment, was not paid for a few hours of work that I did, and on and on. I was told that, " I don't care what you do, comments were made about my size- I am very thin, she is on the heavier side, I was called stupid... There were a few times when she brought in an outsider to tell me I was no longer welcome and that is when I left but I did not and she always took me back.
I did not want to give up on the situation because I so wanted to belong somewhere and if she was not so abusive or angry I probably could have had something really good there. I was looking for a mentor and my niche. The times when I was treated like trash I should have left.
What made it all come to a head was that she really gave it to me and I told her to f off and then some. When I went back to talk to her she twisted everything around to where it was all my fault and she was going to call the police- a year after knowing each other! I texted her and called the office phone and said I was done. I got an e-mail two days later her threatening me in such a nasty, way and basically her saying SHE was done with me.
She was totally abusive and unprofessional. Having had a chance to see into her private life- well it isn't pretty... I think she is a psychopath and has no empathy for other people and has obvious mental issues.
I am still healing and getting over this as this all happened a few weeks ago. I know that we reap what we sow in life and I hope that really applies to her. I hope that anyone reading this- just know that staying in these situations is so not worth it and if you start seeing signs of an abusive, manipulative personality then pay attention to it and Run like the wind!
By Printing Fool:I know exactly what you went through because I had a boss just like that. He was a small mean little man who had to constantly make people smaller than himself. It got so bad he was even insulting his own customers. To make a very long story short, it has a fairy tale ending; This troll couldn't pay his bills and had to sell out to a larger shop who wanted his accounts, as a result I got laid off and was unemployed for four months. The best thing that could have happened to me. I got a four month vacation, landed another job in another print shop [I'm a Printer] and couldn't be happier! My new boss treats me with respect, don't have to beg for supplies to do my job with, I could go on and on how it's heaven now to work for a sane wonderful person. Today I learned I got a raise in pay retroactive from my last pay period. What a nice surprise that was for me today! When you work for someone who is reasonable and kind it really does make the quality of your life more vibrant. I am willing to work my fingers to the bone for these people! You are so right to say that it's just not worth working for abusive people, in the long run, you run out of respect for yourself way before you run out of respect for them. That is just not healthy. Get away from these vampires, pronto!
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