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Weak Boss Promotes Bully
Posted on 06/15/2006 by M. in Wisconsin
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I'm glad I found this place and I wonder, after sharing my first story, if any of you have had similar experinces this one. It's nowhere near as bad as the jealous HR director.
My boss and another coworker are best friends. They do almost everything together, even though one of them has a husband. I'm not implying anything here, it's just that I prefer to do most things with my husband.
Anyway, the co-worker gets special priviledges the rest of us do not get. She comes in late a lot, always has excuses, her owrk is often below par, she does personal things at work, etc. She has very little respect from the others in the department (there are about 15 of us) and we all sort of joke about her behind her back. She needs to be the office queen and we let her have that title because most of us have other things to occupy our time (actually so does she, and she uses work time to get them done).
Some of the men in the office are in middle-management jobs but will probably never move forward. A handful of us poor technical types have no chances either. Of the four of us on the same level, I am probably the only one who could move into management, because I have management experience from years ago, before I moved to this small town.
So OK, I try not to let it bother me. I keep my work at a high level and I try to be professional. I have ooutside interests, friends and other ways to get satisfaction. I'm a blogger, and looking into the possibility of some sort of Internet business. I also have a prestigious part-time job I know my co-worker would kill to have, if she had the credentials.
My plan is to take my time finding just the right job. This could take years. I'd like to hear practical advice for surviving the next few years without going insance.
Thanks, job schmobbers!
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avid reader(06/16/2006)
I know you don't want to accuse, but they are totally sleeping together. A man and a woman who didn't know each other since youth or college or one of them is gay can never be just really good friends. And the way he makes exceptions for her like that? A total giveaway. Nothing will change till they 'break up'.
 the cynic(06/16/2006)
Sounds like my last temp position. There was so much office-cest there that it was sick, and it was regardless of age or marital status. And the woman who was known for getting with the most guys mysteriously got the most promotions and best wage. You don't get the same exceptions she gets because you aren't "servicing" the boss. This stuff is so grossly unethical, I think it should be cracked down upon much harder than it is.
the cynic(06/16/2006)
I should also add that in that experience, guys who didn't sleep around were quickly labeled and gossipped about (like a friend of mine who was called "the 40-year-old virgin". He wasn't a virgin; he had a girlfriend, but just didn't sleep with THIS b---).
 milkmaidinwisconsin(06/16/2006)
On my people how quick we are to judge! The writer never says that this is a male-female liason. Why rush to throw SEX into it? I think not.Read the writers words with care. This is more a case of two quite insecure folk feeding off of each others foibles and perhaps very intimidated by their more capable co-worker.Unfair? Of course! What to do about it? Not much. Infuse your life with better humans. Be gentle with yourself and take good care as to fortify your workday frustrations with this all too common but undeniable phenomenon. You sound like a pretty smart cookie just don't crumble!
 M. in Wisconsin(06/16/2006)
These are two females. I should have been clear about that.
Dharmadee(06/17/2006)
It is still sickening. This reminds me of the relationship that my female manager tried to rope me into, to begin with. I called it the "Xena Warrior Princess" syndrome...she basically wanted me to run behind her and tell her how wonderful she was. Uh...no thanks. Find another "best friend", if that is what you want to call it.
 the confessor(06/17/2006)
I agree. I've seen two female buddies literally start talking, dressing, and acting like each other. And there is something slightly gay about that. Even a lesbian co-worker agreed that there was something unusual about two women with husbands that regularly went away overnight on "shopping trips" together. Eewwww!
M. in Wisconsin(06/17/2006)
It is a pretty needy relationship. The boss used to be very insecure; her sidekick still is. They need each other for support. They must spend 1-2 hours a day talking about their personal problems. The boss is smart enough to keep hers private but the sidekick takes it out on everyone. The sad thing is, these two women make the rest of us look bad.
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BoneyardDiva (06/16/2006)
Man, that sounds just terrible. I hate when ppl play favorites.
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