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The BIMBO MANAGER gets muzzled- BUT I need advice.
Posted on 06/08/2006 by Dharmadee
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OK, guys, another spin. After getting some initial positive feedback from the new administrator, the B.M. got even more arrogant, which IS her M.O. She attacked me openly again, so I got up my courage, and went in to confront the administrator. Believe it or not, he actually listened, and asked for more information. NOW, he is going to be holding weekly meetings, to get an idea about thw dynamic of the department. I am not sure at this point if it is a real effort to improve the situation, or if it is the corporate "cover your a--" response. Any ideas?
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Dharmadee(06/09/2006)
IF it seems reasonable, I am wondering if I should try to get the annual raise that they screwed me out of last month...it was B.S., and this new guy knows it. Should I push it, or wait for them to figure it our?
 freedomringer(06/09/2006)
I have been reading this saga, and trust me I feel for you. I have been hoping for positive things to happen for you. I would say be as politically correct as you can possibly be and let the BM hang herself. She is getting desperate, as you can see from the open attack. Give her the rope and let her hang herself. Good things are in store for you!! What comes around goes around and I have been around long enough to see that aphorism is true! I have tasted my own medicine and have learned from my mistakes. Bittersweet. However be on your guard, call it as you see it; your in a den of thieves.
 Dharmadee(06/09/2006)
I am still in a holding pattern, but the signs are improving. The tide is turning, and people are starting to speak up in my behalf. You guys have helped me more than you can know. If the Administrator is as good as they say he is, I might have a fighting chance.
 the confessor(06/11/2006)
You might just win, but remember, you really deserve a decent work environment from the get-go. How much better is it when you receive the pay raises and praises as a matter of course, instead of wondering whether your bimbo managers latest sexual gambit means negative outcomes for you and others. GET OUT!!
Dharmadee(06/13/2006)
Yes, confessor, you are so right. Every day, it is a crap shoot - and this is supposedly one of the most prestigious firms in the country, who have set policy in the area of corporate law. How scary is that? I guess it makes me wonder if there IS anywhere else that I can go where it would be better. It feels like we are all just barely hanging on by our fingernails...or is that just me?
C - -(06/13/2006)
Hanging by your fingernails is a very common feeling right now, at least I hear about it often enough. You could change jobs only to find yourself in a similar situation (been there) If you can finish your degree under these circumstances do it and then take another job. I know you are already looking, I hope your degree opens up more possiblities and won't keep you in a law office.
Dharmadee(06/14/2006)
WOW, you guys...they are bringing in an outsourcing company now, to do a "study" of the department! I think that I freaked them out so much that now they are willing to do away with all of us, just to get rid of me! Am I paranoid, or what? I did give the new administrator an ear-full, and I had documentation to back it all up. I think they might be scared to DEATH. What do I do now? HELP me, you guys...you have all given me the best advice so far. Should I confront and demand a settlement? Should I go to the E.E.O.C.? Os should I just ride it out and hope for the best? I have been sending out resumes, but no luck yet in this job market.
C - -(06/15/2006)
It may be that - or another indimidation technique. Stay calm and calculate; what and who can be outsourced without damaging confidentiality? You may want to talk to the EEOC, but go over the facts and options with a lawyer first.
C - -(06/15/2006)
If or when you decide to talk to a lawyer tell him you need advice, but don't mention the name and business your employer is in.
-Chin up-
Dharmadee(06/15/2006)
Well, C--, you are so right about that!! I mentioned the name of the law firm I work for to a lawyer today from a BIG firm-they did not want to touch it. Damn. He did refer me, and I spoke to another attorney today who was willing to risk it. I am going for it. We had another stupid "meeting" today in my department, and it is defintely a case of more covering up. The new Administrator had the nerve to actually say to all of us, "if it turns out someone here is not a good fit" and here he meshed his fingers together,"maybe they should go back to school, and find another position." NOT a real subtle hint, in my opinion, as I told him I was back in college! Unbelievably, she actually flirted with him in FRONT of me. I am so sick of this crap. Is that really all that matters? I have to take this to court, just to convince myself there are still some standards left in the world. I know, I am a stupid idealist...but I can't help it, it is who I am. I really believe that there is a right and a wrong. It might get me nowhere (probably) but I have to try...
C - -(06/15/2006)
Again good luck - you will need it. Are you going to sue for retaliation among other things? Are you still planning to notify the EEOC? Make sure this is in your best interest and not just to embarrass your current employer. God knows they deserve it but you deserve a decent life without being in yearlong proceedings.
Dharmadee(06/16/2006)
I don't know anymore what is the best course of action. If a company is really this unlawful, should I just let it go? I guess I am having a hard time believing that they are this evil. I keep waiting for them to say "sorry", but I can tell it is not going to happen. Is this really the legacy I want to show my children, that being in the right is NOT worth fighting for?
C - -(06/16/2006)
This is a tough decision to make. Do you have somebody trustworthy to talk to and can you explore all possible repercussions? -- Even though I received a letter to sue from the EEOC I had to drop the case, dealing with the EEOC by myself was a battle. That's why a lawyer dealing with them would save you from a lot of emotional crap. It was getting too much for my family at the time. Because of my employer I tried to find an attorney in another nearby city. This happened a few years ago and I hope you have better representation. A lot of us want to make things better for our children.
freedomringer(06/16/2006)
Dharmadee, I admire your courage and conviction and I think it is a greater sin to not do anything against injustice. Think about the civil rights leaders, many of them put themselves and the people they loved in harms way to fight injustice. I am not saying you should become a martyr, but these are the people who are setting labor laws for you and your childrens' future! I can see the other point of view as well though, turn the other cheek. But where is the straw that broke the camels back. I am currently looking for another job because of something my current boss has done, I have tried to forgive but I can not. I have no respect for him and when I leave here I want to burn the bridge down.
C - -(06/16/2006)
FR - you are so right, turning the other cheek to get slapped again is not an option. D. if you want to go ahead make sure that the agency starting your case is willing to finish it and does not weasel with a lame excuse leaving you to fight this alone.
Dharmadee(06/16/2006)
C--, I am taking your advice, and will be talking to a lawyer this weekend. Maybe it will be worth it, maybe not. I am also looking for another job, maybe with a smaller company that has some sort of heart. It makes me sad, to know that it has to come to the point that corporate Americaa actually encourages workplace bullying.
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just me (06/08/2006)
It could be both at this point.
C - - (06/08/2006)
Yes, all you can do is observe and wait, if you care to stick around. Still hoping for a positive outcome for you.
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