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Hi,
I have a job that I (up till now) have really liked. Almost a year ago, I got my friends husband a job at the same place. Oh My God, he is the most paranoid, angry, morale deflating person I have ever encountered. And now just a few days ago, the 2 of us got called outside for a confrontation. He had the nerve to tell me I was psycho....Mr Mood Swing....and when I told the owner of how disruptive his attitude was, the manager said "I don't see it that way". This guy walks around all day complaining that our customers are "in-bred" and how much he hates them, complains about how much money the other servers make because he is stuck delibrately in the back area that is not as busy as the front. When he is not complaining, he is text messaging another waiter This is weird, because he is 47 yrs old and his only friend is a bi-sexual 27 yr old, yeah creepy, considering he is married to one of my vest friends, who by the way isn't so best anymore either. I just don't know what to say to her, I am not going to bad mouth her husband) He is so disruptive, that I am looking for another job. I guess it is not just that I can't stand working with him, it is the reaction of my superiors letting him get by with this behavior that is very eye opening. I am a reactionary and have struggled with this situation because of the friendship part, but now he is just being hateful and vicious and I think I am the one that will end up paying for it. He was recently convicted of embezzlement from his last job and he has a gambling problem. ( I haven't told anyone this). His wife has already moved to Reno and for some eason, supposedly because of his probation, he can't go with her right now...how much longer, I don't know.I don't understand why, unless he plans on staying here and leaving her.
Heeelllppp!!!!!!!!!!!!

POST A COMMENTCK(01/01/2008)
Cat is right on many points. But I would like to add to her remarks.

It sounds like the guy has many personal issues. He has a gambling issue (NV is not the place to be if you have a gambling problem!), he may not be out of the closet and so has frustrations pent up, he has embezzled - maybe to feed his gambling problem, thus making him harder to employ. Then he calls the customers inbred - it all sounds like the hostility is about to burst.

I would highly recommend staying far away from him. Just pray he doesn't have guns! The guy needs, but probably can't afford, professional help.



the confessor(01/01/2008)
I agree that this guy has serious personal, emotional, financial, and sexual issues.
He reminds me of Psycho Boy Randy at one radio station I worked at. One day he was extremely agitated and disrupted. I confronted him and demanded to know what was up. He informed me that a female co-worker was "using her ass and feet (?!?) to control him"...
'Nuff said!

SouthernProgrammer(01/02/2008)
Don't let this guy run you away from a job you like unless you find something MUCH better for you. Sooner or later this creep will self destruct and will either leave or get thrown out. Remember, you did not do anything wrong except try to help someone in trouble, too bad your friend didn't disclose her husbands problems to you before. Good luck and keep us informed as to what happens.

scrambled(01/02/2008)
Thanks you guys for all your comments. I really needed to vent. This guy really knows how to push my buttons and I am sooo afraid that I will say something to him and then I look like the bad guy. He is really good at that sort of thing. Another part of me doesn't want to believe that he is all so bad, either. I just don't want to be in the path of his wrath any longer and I don't know how to neutralize the situation. He is so overly sensitive and paranoid that I feel he will misinterpret anything I say. OH THE TENSION!!! And yeah, he is sorta creepin me out too. As for his wife, you're right! I have been letting her off the hook way too easy. She is the one who left town, has a new job and is with family. He is camping out with her aunt, can't afford to do anything else. Once again, thanks for your comments.

rodriguez(01/16/2008)
buy him a gun, he will kill himself

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Dumber than a Catbox full of sh*t (12/31/2007) Sounds like the wife knew exactly what she was doing--ditched him and to assuage her guilt, used you to get him a job. She may or may not have known that she was putting you in the trick bag (knowing he was a bad worker) but I'll bet she knew this too-- can't hide losing your job due to embezzling from your wife. She is no friend at all.